Having served as pastor for 40 years, and college professor for over 20 years, one of the questions I have been most often asked is, “How do I know God’s will for my life?” This is, indeed, a most provocative question. I have been asked this question in relation to so many different areas of life: marriage, college, career choice, ministry opportunities, and a plethora of others.

Let me say that it is always a blessing for me to hear someone ask this question, regardless of the area of life they are inquiring about. This is because it shows a desire to do what God wants the individual to do. I am always more than ready and willing to assist those who are genuinely interested in doing God’s will.

However, having said that, I must hasten to say that it is sometimes a demanding task to seek and find God’s will. And there is no one patent answer that can be given to the question, as God works differently in different individual’s lives. How one person determines God’s will does not guarantee that it will work in another person’s search.

So, having laid that groundwork, let’s dive into the question, “How can I know God’s will for my life?” I am going to look at the question in two distinct ways. First, let’s think of the question like this: “How can I know God’s will?” After giving consideration to that question, we will then ask the question as originally presented in this blog: “How can I know God’s will for my life?”

Henry Blackaby, in his phenomenal work, “Experiencing God”, says that to ask, “How can I know God’s will for my life?” is to ask the wrong question. He states emphatically that the correct question is, “How can I know God’s will?” Blackaby then says that to determine God’s will, all one has to do is to look around and see where God is working. Then, once you have determined where God is at work, recognize this as God’s invitation for you to join Him in His work.

This takes effort on the part of the individual. We must first put forth the effort to be observant. We can’t go through life wearing spiritual blinders. We must be alert and actively seeking to discern God’s activity. It may be in your child’s school, or in a neighborhood soup kitchen, or at a local chapter of crisis pregnancy center, or any number of places He may be at work. Some of these may be short-term, while others may be long-term or even permanent places of God’s activity. You then have the opportunity to join in the work as God gives opportunity to do so.

There have been times in my life in which I have felt the nudging of the Holy Spirit to join a particular work of God. The invitation was clear, and the work was obvious. It was a matter of me saying yes or no to this invitation of God. I’m sure you have had those occasions as well. This is God’s way of saying to us, “This is My will – I invite you to join Me in this work.” A positive response will result in seeing God work through us for the duration of time He chooses. This is determining God’s will.

But the question is most often worded as stated at the outset of this blog: “How do I know God’s will for my life?” And this is often coupled with a very specific question. “Is it God’s will that I marry this individual?” “Should I get married now, or should we wait a little longer?” “Is this the right career path for me to invest my life in?” “Is it time for us to make a move to a different location?” “Should I accept this invitation to change course and begin a new career?” “Is this the right time for us to start a family?” And a myriad of other questions, striving to discern God’s will for our lives.

It sure would have been nice if God had included an addendum to the Bible with a five-point plan, with action points to take which would help us come to a clear, unmistakable life choice that is dead-center in the will of God. But, alas, there is no such addendum. And, as I stated earlier, there is no plan that works for everyone. Seeking God’s will for our lives is an individual effort.

But, having stated the obvious, I will say that there are certain actions we can take as we strive to determine His will for our lives. I share these with the hope and prayer that they will prove to be of help as you seek God’s will.

Prayer is an indispensable ingredient in the search for God’s will. This one should go without saying, but for the sake of emphasis I put this at the top of the list. It is crucial that we maintain open lines of communication with the Father through the vehicle of prayer. And please remember that prayer is a dialogue, not a monologue. We have a conversation with God by hearing Him speak to us through His Word, and then by responding to Him through prayer. Then, listen to His still, small voice to speak directly to our hearts as we get quiet before Him in that private place of prayer. And please remember this admonition from the Epistle of James: “If any of you lacks wisdom let him ask of God who gives to all men liberally and without reproach” (James1:5).

Second, I would suggest that to know God’s will we must surrender our will to Him. In the model prayer, Jesus taught us to pray, “Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” I have said many times that in order for His will to come in my life, my will must be done away with. I cannot sit on the throne of my life and have the Lord sitting on that throne at the same time. We must, as Paul says in Romans, present our bodies as living sacrifices for Him.

A third suggestion I would make is that we must be consistent in our walk with God. Our walk should be dictated by our staying in step with the Spirit of God. You have heard me quote Paul’s words on several occasions in which he encourages us to walk in the Spirit so that we do not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. That is the negative side of walking in the Spirit. But the positive side is that as we walk in the Spirit we will develop an ever-deepening fellowship with Him through which we sense His will.

Then, a fourth observation is that we should strive to live in obedience to the truths of God’s Word that we are already familiar with. We cannot hear His still, small voice through the clutter of a disobedient lifestyle. We must practice the truths of His Word, and He will then reveal more truth to us. As we learn more of His truth, we are able to more quickly and readily discern His will.

As a fifth suggestion I would make the observation that we must seek Godly input from fellow believers in whom we have confidence. We should be quick to ask for advice, counsel, and prayer from those whose walk with God is consistent, and from whom we can receive Godly advice.

A sixth and final suggestion I would make is to pay attention to how God has put into our DNA preferences for certain things, and a dislike for others. This is not to be put at the top of the list of priorities as we are sometimes deceived by our own personal preferences in life. But this does play an important role in seeking God’s will. He has wired us in such a way that we are naturally drawn to certain activities and actions, while others have no appeal to us at all.

There are certainly other suggestions that could be added to this short list, but if we would put these five into practice I feel it would go a long way in assisting us in discerning God’s will.

In closing, just remember that the question is two-fold: seek God’s will; and seek God’s will for your life. In so doing God will lead us into activities which we can join in as we observe His activity, and we can discern the broader scope of discovering His will for the long-term of our lives.

Hope this proves to be helpful.

Until next time:

Blessings!